Dating a girl with depression
It's actually coming off as you disregarding the seriousness of their pain.
The only way to make your significant other not feel embarrassed about opening up to you is to accept the fact that they suffer from depression/anxiety/both, understand that they really have no control as much they try and comfort them whenever needed. Panic and stress are issues for anyone with anxiety. There's going to be days where they feel like total crap, just like there's days where it feels like an anxiety attack is inevitable. Learning how this all works will make it easier for you to, again, accept, understand and comfort.
It's sort of a combination of dating and playing Russian Roulette with my brain juice. You don't have to read my mind — you just have to take cues. If I ask you to please go get me an iced coffee and a tuna melt and don't yell at me for eating in bed, please do that, if you're not busy. But you should still feel as lucky — (#blessed), if you will — to have me as I do to have you.
If you make me feel like a complete self-indulgent drag that's barely worth putting up with, my first move once I'm feeling up to it will be to dump your ass and find someone who knows I'm more than worthwhile.
Usually there IS a reason to be depressed or anxious. Emotions will run high and it's quite possible you'll get ticked off over something. It's normal for us when trying to help someone cope to relate.
Possibilities include genetics or past experiences that could have been traumatizing. "I remember this one time when I was depressed..." isn't empathetic.