Dating through divorce
If you’re dating a man who has been divorced, chances are he’s had his heart ripped out by someone he held dear.
That usually means he’s not going to be in any rush to have it happen again.
Still, dating a guy who’s been divorced, just like dating a woman who’s been divorced, does come with a certain amount of baggage.
It also comes with a few things you’re going to have to accept without conflict.
If you’re looking for the kind of man who’s going to say “I love you” at first sight, you’re dating the wrong guy.
Divorcees tend to take things slow, and with good reason.
Don’t meet the kids right away; give the relationship with you and your guy time to bloom first.
Most divorcees come with miniature versions of themselves. Here are these little people with half your man’s DNA. His kids might look like him, but they’re still their own little people, and those people have feelings.
In other words no making room for his toothbrush or giving him his own drawer yet.
Even if this guy wants to be with you for the rest of his life, his kids might not be ready for it.
Also, if you and his children get along too well too fast, and then you and this guy break up, it will be devastating for the children (it’s their parents’ divorce all over again).
You have no idea if these people liked his ex or couldn’t stand her, but you don’t want to be compared to her. Now, let’s assume his kids adore you and everything is going great. In fact, the better you get along with everyone else, the more likely the ex is to hate you for it.
There may come a point when you have to stand your ground.