Divorce and dating with kids
Remember that meeting a new partner will bring up many emotions for children. The effects of divorced mothers’ dating behaviors and sexual attitudes on the sexual attitudes and behaviors of their adolescent children. For related content, check out our Divorced Mom’s Guide to Dating site here!Sticking to neutral turf helps the parent provide the necessary structure children may need while being introduced to new partners. Introduce the new partner as a “new friend” and not the new “love of my life.” Sensitivity Counts.Children may have more trouble adjusting to their fathers’ dating relationships than their mother’s.They are dealing with their own issues of loss, betrayal, adjustment, trust- just to name a few.Parents need to make sure before things get tricky that children understand their continued importance to them, the freedom for the child(ren) to continue a close loving relationship with the ex-spouse (despite any personal misgivings) and the possibility of new people in the parent’s life.When you're losing a partner through divorce, or more accurately for many people, when a divorce finalizes the loss of a partner who's been gone for a while, it's very tempting to seek out new companionship. Meagan has stated several times in our divorce counseling that she's entitled to since Colin did (without her) during their marriage. Since their separation more than 6 months ago they've handled the custody of their 3 kids 50/50.
Don’t assume that kids will understand the need for a “crazy phase” of dating.She's been drinking a lot and begun dating during her divorce.Sadly, many divorcing couples revert back to acting like they're 20 years old and in a fraternity, instead of being the adults with kids and responsibilities that they actually are.Similar research also supports this idea: a gradual approach allows children time to adjust to their parents’ dating (and the new dating partner) at a pace that allows for successful parenting.If the decision has been made to bring the new partner into the child’s life, make sure that they meet on neutral territory (i.e., not home) in a casual setting.