When the music stops dating
This compared to the 'small talk' control group in which the bonds formed were much less pronounced. The questions were tailored to start off simply and become more and more personal as the time went on.
The questions would begin with topics like "Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? These then became more probing with questions like "If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
" and "What roles do love and affection play in your life?
" So, do you think that a set of questions can really be the difference between falling in love or just being friends?
Techno Speed Dating is new territory for the native New Yorker, but as a photographer by trade and creator of Brooklyn’s Kiss & Tell parties, which she’s been running since 2005, Devres is a vet of the Brooklyn nightlife and electronic scene.
During her 10-year relationship with Bryan Kasenic, co-founder of The Bunker, she assumed the role of official party host of the venue.
Devres noted that there were more straight women at the second event versus more queer and straight men at the first. While she acknowledges that it might one day make sense to separate future TSD parties based on sexual preference (she’s hoping to draw more of a queer crowd to forthcoming events), she plans on keeping them mixed for the time being.
She got the idea for TSD after hosting Kiss & Tell: First Date where guests had to bring a first date or new friend to the party (one of her many themes from over the years). I feel like we’ve been interacting one-on-one and courting one-on-one since the beginning of time and I just feel like these dating apps are not a healthy way to interact with people or to look for a potential mate,” she said.
The crowd was mostly Brooklyn-based with Harlem, the Upper West Side, and New Jersey representation, along with one legendary Irishman who rolled up on his solo vacation to NYC.
By the time speed dating wrapped up at 10pm, over 60 people had participated throughout the night.
Devres has a mane of fuschia hair, a warm smile and personality to match.
The event cover is and as the host, she makes sure to check everyone in personally, asking guests whether they’re seeking men, women, or both, and printing their preference in the corner of their name tag.