Wife is dating another woman
Sure, "taking advice from the other woman is only addressing one level of your marriage's health," concedes Noelle Nelson, Ph D, a relationship expert and author of Your Man Is Wonderful. Patricia,* who is currently having an affair with a married man, cites her aura of self-confidence and self-reliance as one of the most alluring things about her.
But that said, "these are often things that the wife probably used to do—and should think about doing again." Here, eight little love lessons—from marriage experts, the other woman and a couple of cheating husbands. "Insecurity is a very unattractive trait," she says.
In relationships – especially those that have lasted many years – one becomes used to the spouse’s habits and ways of doing things.
One of the big adjustments widowers have to make when they become serious with another woman is realizing that you come with your own unique habits and ways of doing things.
Now imagine that you have the opportunity to sit down with the other woman and find out, from her perspective, why he strayed. Before you recoil in horror, consider this: An imaginary other woman might be able to clue you in on what you're potentially neglecting in your marriage.Don't let your to-do list be running through the back of your mind. Care about him and then take your turn," says Patricia. Something like, "Thanks for taking Jason to soccer every Saturday. Oh, who has time to date, much less to write romantic notes or buy sexy lingerie? What it means for you: It sounds simplistic, but it's a tenet of good marriages: Have sex. It can be hard for some women to remember that their marriage should be the first priority on their list, says Dr. The other woman has the advantage of being able to put her lover first—because she doesn't have the other distractions.I'm so pleased I married the kind of man who's really involved in the kids' activities" tells him you notice his fatherhood chops. It's true that sexual desire waxes and wanes and that there are often mismatches between partners, but try to find common ground, says Dr. "You should have some physical closeness and contact at least once a week. More is the exception—but at least it should be consistent." Another point, adds Quinlan: "Keep sex as an enjoyable, joyful part of your relationship, and don't withhold it as punishment," which only casts it in a negative light. What it means for you: Continually remind yourself that the husband-wife relationship is primary. Put the kids to bed early so you can snuggle on the couch together. Be interested in his work, hobbies and accomplishments.He Constantly Compares You to His Late Wife People are creatures of habit.We become accustomed to things being done a certain way.